I click on the link in our group chat and cackle so loud I scare the dog. My husband, Roger, from across the room, says, “Who sent you something inappropriate?” 

“Michele,” I answer. 

“Figures.” 

Roger knows. Because Roger knows me and the “Bad Moms.” The Bad Moms is a small group of friends who all have adult kids and who have all been told, at one time or another, that we were Bad Moms. (By those kids. Or ourselves. Or both.) We now wear that title as a badge of honor because we’ve all had to disappoint our kids in order to be the best kind of moms we know how to be. 

We are the mom friends who send each other funny videos and inappropriate memes because let’s face it: parenting doesn’t stop when the kids move out. And these kids? They will make you cry. But the right kind of friends will make you laugh. 

These are the send-money-for-a-dozen-donuts friends. The love-each-other’s-children friends. They also lament when one of those kids is driving a fellow mom to eat every one of those donuts. And the way we have been bonded together? Disappointment. Grief. Pain. 

There are a million Facebook groups, TikTok videos, and books created to support moms with kids at home. But for moms of adults, this is my best support group. Our group shares more than its fair share of deep joy and inappropriate laughter. 

There have been so many times I’ve prayed that God would take a burden away. Gratefully, instead, God has chosen to surround me with friends—real, authentic friends who will carry that burden with me. 

Is there someone in your life who needs help carrying a burden? Or maybe they just need someone to offer the gift of inappropriate laughter and brevity in a world where it’s so easy to feel heavy. Either way, it is through our shared sorrows and joy that we can make it through. 

Carry one another’s burdens; in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. GALATIANS 6:2 CSB 

Where are you finding God’s strength today? 

This is an excerpt from 100 Days of Strength in Any Struggle from (in)courage a devotional now available on DaySpring.com. Shop all books, journals, and devotions from DaySpring here.