Mother & Daughter – Growing Together

Mother & Daughter – Growing Together

Mother's Day 2013 was sandwiched between two very exciting days for me: the day I graduated college, and the day I set off to backpack around Europe for six weeks. My mom selflessly spent that weekend cheering me on just as she had all my life. I was in such a frenzy of last minute travel plans and emotions that Mother's Day sort of fell to the wayside that year. My brother and I did chip in to buy a beautiful card and to take mom out for a nice mid-day lunch... but after those moments the focus of my universe quickly shifted back to me. 

A few weeks later when I returned from Europe, I thought to myself, "This will be the perfect time to spend some quality time with mom." I would be home for the next few weeks before moving 10 hours away for my first corporate job. However, those weeks quickly came and went and I found myself staring at an unfinished list of potential bonding activities and a mom that was sad to see her first child leave the nest. 

In that moment, I realized just how hard it would be to have a quality relationship with my mom in this new season of life... if I wasn't hitting it out of the park now, how would I ever when there were hours and miles between us?

However, it wasn't enough to merely desire a strong relationship with my mom. Here are a few key actions that helped me foster our relationship amidst the changes:

1. I view my mother as a daughter.  I've spent my whole life as a daughter and it's easy for me to know what being loved as a daughter feels like. But suddenly, when I place into context the fact that my mother is also a daughter... a daughter of the highest King - it changes my perspective completely. I am reminded that we share something truly amazing - God's love for us. Love that creates an unbreakable bond in our earthly relationship.  

For you are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus. Galatians 3:26 (NLT)

2. I pray for my mom.  My heart has grown closer to my mother more by praying for her than by any other activity I could pursue. Prayer connects us spiritually. She doesn't have to know that I'm praying for her, but it's even better when she does.  

I give thanks to my God always for you because of the grace of God that was given you in Christ Jesus. 1 Corinthians 1:4 (ESV)

3. I go out of my way to connect with my mom.  Amidst the busyness of my adult life - marriage, work, home, friendships - it is a conscious choice to make time for mom. My mom spent much her life pouring into me, and as adult that relationship is now a two-way street. Visits, phone calls, random gifts... it has been so fun learning how to love my mom back.  

Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Romans 12:10 (ESV)

If I could go back to May 12, 2013, I would celebrate my mom a bit differently. My adulthood is built on the foundation of her prayers for me, her sacrifices for me, and her unending love for me. Thank goodness a life of following Christ is a journey... one that I love having my mom on my side for. 

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