Cultivating Your Family's Garden

Cultivating Your Family's Garden

Cultivating a relationship is just like cultivating a garden. We must invest time and energy without any guarantee of something good in return. We plant and water the seeds in hopes of long-term growth.

With thousands of self-help books on bookstore shelves about improving relationships, how do we know which guide to follow? The real question is: how does God want us to cultivate these relationships in our lives? 

Fostering a Successful Marriage.

“The Lord made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, ‘this is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman... That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is unified to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Genesis 2:21-24 NIV

God created Eve to be unified with Adam. In fact, He created her from Adam’s rib - only furthering the idea that a husband and wife are to become one flesh. This physical representation of ‘bone of my bones’ reflects the physical, mental and intimate bond that is created between a husband and wife as soon as the words “I do” leave their lips. It is a one-of-a-kind, special bond that should be protected. While every marriage will experience its ups and downs, we must always keep God’s guidelines at the forefront of our thoughts, remaining faithful to His Word and working with our spouses to become a strong, God-loving unit.

Raising Children.

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right…Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Ephesians 6:1-4 NIV

So, in a nutshell, children have the duty to obey, and parents have the responsibility to teach them obedience. Easier said than done, right? Raising kids is an amazing, beautiful, heart-wrenching, down-right hard experience. And, although we are taught from day one to obey our parents - well, something happens around the age of 14 or 15 where we think we’ve just got this life thing figured out with little or no need for any adult supervision. That is why, when we are in the thick of raising our children, we must look at His Word for guidance. We must slow down long enough to listen to His voice as he leads us in growing our relationships with our children, so that we can be a strong spiritual leader as well as a loving parent.  

Rooting Your Family in Faith.

“The righteous will flourish like a palm tree, they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon; planted in the house of the Lord, they will flourish in the courts of our God. They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green, proclaiming, ‘The Lord is upright; he is my Rock, and there is no wickedness in him.” Psalm 92:12-15 NIV.

The cedar tree of Lebanon is easily seen because its branches point upwards towards the sky.  We, as children of God, are like the cedar of Lebanon because even as we get older we keep our arms raised towards the heavens. We are able to carry the fruits of the Holy Spirit throughout our lifetime, and in doing so, we can plant God’s light in our brothers, sisters, parents, children, nieces, nephews and so on and so on. And, let’s face it, if we can root our family on this amazing Rock, we are not only guiding them to a solid foundation, but we are also growing the Kingdom of God.


As we begin to focus more on what God says about cultivating our relationships, we see that at the root of it all, we’re required to share love. How can you Share the Love this week? Visit DaySpring’s Instagram page and snap a picture of how you’re Sharing the Love! #ShareTheLove #LiveYourFaith #DaySpring