5 Reasons I Listen to my Mother

5 Reasons I Listen to my Mother

My mom carries herself with an understated beauty and strength. She's the kind of person people sit next to and immediately want to share their life story with her. When she listens and gives advice, it feels like she's fighting for you and pouring courage into you at the same time. One of my favorite places to be is riding in the car with her. I watch the landscape pass by, pondering the deeper questions of life and bouncing them off her one at a time. I love seeing what she thinks about things. A lot of the time I agree, but even when I disagree, the debate gives me insight into how I feel. She's been a steady source of unconditional love and sound advice throughout my life

Living away from home has made me hold these car rides closer to my heart because they are fewer and farther between. My modified version where I put her on speaker and set my phone on the seat next to me is not quite the same. Thankfully, the sound advice she's given me throughout the years has actually stayed with me. Proverbs 6 talks about this in verses 20-22 (NIV) when it says, "My son, keep your father’s command and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. Bind them always on your heart; fasten them around your neck. When you walk, they will guide you; when you sleep, they will watch over you; when you awake, they will speak to you." My mother is now the voice inside my head telling me to treat people kindly, to put my dirty socks in the laundry instead of under the bed, and to not give up on God or myself. 

Whether she's the voice on speakerphone next to me in the car or the one invading the thoughts in my head, here are five reasons I listen to my mother: 

1. She's done this before. My mom has thirty more years of life experience than me. She knows what she's doing. I didn't realize how much she knew what she was doing until I moved out of the house. Ever since then, a world of questions has opened up, and she knows the answer to all of them. She's basically a search engine on the other end of the phone.

2. She puts things in perspective. My mom knows what's important. She's seen enough things play out in life to know what's worth spending time and energy on. Sometimes I'm telling her how swamped I am, all the necessary things I have to do, and she'll say, "Call your family. They love you." She knows what you forget about and what still matters thirty years down the road. 

3. She's not afraid to call me out. It's almost annoying how well she knows me sometimes. She can point out motives and feelings behind my actions I don't even know are there. When I feel like I'm really starting to get this life thing down, my mom comes in and points out an opportunity for growth.

4. She points me to Jesus. I haven't seen many people love Jesus the way my mom does. Her passion and her tender heart towards Him continue to inspire me. Even as a young girl, she taught me how to go to Him with everything. I would come home with a problem, and she would tell me to journal or go for a walk and talk to God about it. This has been one of the most impactful things she's taught me. She helped me build a relationship with God and taught me to rely on Him from the beginning. 

5. She's my number one fan. At the end of the day, my mom is my biggest fan. She believes in me. That's why when she challenges me or calls me out on something, it's okay. I may not want to hear it at first, but eventually I listen to her. It's hard to argue with someone who truly has your best interest in mind.

Proverbs 1:8-9 (NIV) says, "Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. They are a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck." The garland and chain in this verse are items of value. They cost something to have. I think about my mom now, and I value her advice because it cost her something to give it to me. She faced fears, learned from mistakes, and stepped out in faith. She gave things up to raise me and be present in my life.

Moms are truly incredible. They're hard-working, self-sacrificing, and loving to the end. I'm so thankful for the one I have, and the extra few I've added along the way. I decided someone doesn't have to give birth to me to be a mother in my life. They just have to love me and be looking out for my best. This week, think about the mothers in your life, thank them for who they are with an eCard. Most of us wouldn't be where we are without them, and those kind of people are the ones worth celebrating.